Spoil Black Poor Children.

[Shelia Ellis]

I remember back when I was a child my mom would buy us an outfit for every holiday and at the beginning of school. Now kids are getting the Jordan's gym shoes every month or whenever they come out, the latest tech game every time it is updated and we want even talk about the latest fashions. As my daughter disrespected me one day I had to stand back and take a look at what did I do wrong. I thought to myself everything that my mom had (I thought as a child)did wrong to me I did not want to happen to my child. I mean I didn't want to see my daughters kicked out, without lights at times or no gas or hot water. So I did everything in my power to make sure my kids never experience these conditions but now that I think about it I'm glad my mom kicked me out. Even though it was at a real young age when she gave me and my brother $50 and said she couldn't do it no more and we had to leave, I now understand what don't kill you make you strong . Now I'm stuck wondering how did I spoil my poor black children and why are they so disrespectful to me when I thought I had raised them better than my mom raised me. What's really going on? As I look at their friends I see the same apply to them also. I messed up and so did other parents, trying to make our kids not feel the pain that we experienced as kids. How and why in the %$& did I spoil my kids and we are broke ? To show tough love now makes them want to kill us as parents. What can we do now? How can we get the respect back? Would you discuss this with me so that the other parents would know how and what not to do so we don't repeat this dysfunctional thinking? How do you make a child feel comfortable being broke and send them out into a world that looks down on them for not having what everybody else don't have?

Poison is not just in the wind but our children also.