The Importance Of Islamic Polygyny, Muta' And Good Marital Behavior Especially In African American Civil Society" By Ali Abu-Talib

[Mark Wells]

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Let's get real. Although all of us who are reading this are not Black, everyone who has a heart should be able to relate. Must of us live in America, or somewhere within the New World Order. Check this out. There are more Black babies born out of wedlock than there are born in wedlock... whether the union is licensed or not. This is a statistical fact that should not be lightly dismissed. THINK. What does this mean?

 

Real commitment is becoming rare as most Black folks' sexual unions are Islamically illegal and universally immoral according to every religion that claims Abraham as its Patriarch. There is little to no care of whether or not a child issues forth from these unwed sexual unions, and the word bastard is considered mean spirited since all of the metaphysical inauspiciousness is considered old fashioned and superstitious. 

 

The leading cause of strife in these sexual unions is lack of finance and infidelity. Infidelity has been defined by the society in which most of us are raised in as he or she having sex outside of what is called "marriage." Marriage is defined as a one man one woman familial relationship, except in some states that includes men marrying men and women marrying women. 

 

The one man one woman formula would be ideal in an ideal world. Our world is far from ideal Black women grossly outnumber black men in The US in civilized society, meaning society outside of jail. America has the largest per capita prison population on earth. Black men represent less than 7% of the population of the United States Of America. But Black men represent over 60% of the largest prison population on the planet. 

 

The overwhelming majority of Black Men are in prison for non violent crimes. But as convicted felons they are literally “Black Balled” once they return to civil society. They can’t (I REPEAT... C A N N O T) get good jobs. They have a harder time getting in schools. They can’t even vote. It is like Dr. King didn’t defeat Jim Crow after all.

 

A wonderful Christian sister, Michelle Alexander, wrote a must read book entitled “The New Jim Crow.” Written by this highly successful Black lawyer and civil rights advocate, “The New Jim Crow” uncovers the truth of the plight of Black Men in this society, but barely touches on the strain that having so few Black me in our civil society puts on Black women sexually.

 

Black men are systematically being targeted in this country. This for sure is not 

new. Black men have alway been in the cross hairs of the dominant racist segment of America. Black men are still the first ones fired and the last ones hired. If one of our little criminals, who has been systemically and racially cut out of the legitimate economy, gets busted for selling drugs, they throw away the key. A white boy is more apt to get off with a warning. A Black BOY will most likely be forced to do hard time in a prison system that’s designed to make them worse... not better. 

 

Why? Because it’s in the best interests of the prison system that felons return quickly. Why? Because many prisons are privately owned and government sponsored. Money talks. You know what walks. It’s as simple as that. 

 

We know that there is a conspiracy in this country to destroy black boys. There are many academic studies that have been published on this obvious conspiracy (Not so obvious to working and middle class White folks and Negroes who haven’t been paying attention). The schools are feminine. Black boys can’t relate. Dig it. Gangs didn’t just appear. We know this. 

 

Add to all this the fact that Black On Black homicide kills as many young black males between the ages of (something like) 17 and 35 as the body count in the Korean Conflict and Vietnam put together EVERY SINGLE YEAR, and a mathematical certainty appears in front of anyone’s eyes who are paying attention. Fewer have the cultural bent, or (and) religious to effectively and morally solve their problems.

 

There are so many young and older Black men in prison, because economic pressures drive them to acts of desperation that are both illegal and carry a very bad, but highly predictable outcome. Thus, there are too many women to match up one to one... the one woman to one man family unit in most African American Communities as a whole is a mathematical impossibility. If everyone practiced it, there’d be a huge number of sisters left celibate for the rest of their lives or until, some married sister died, or was divorced. 

 

There are just too many more Black women in civil society than there are Black men. WAY WAY WAY more. There are even a greater ratio between so called GOOD BLACK WOMEN and GOOD BLACK MEN whether you’re talking educationally good, economically good, religiously good, well behaved good, or a combination of all of them or some mix there of. The higher your standards, the slimmer the pickins. 

 

DIG THIS. There are entirely too few men to scratch the itches of so many women. Yet the unrealistic and arbitrary European Trinitarian monogamous marital system is the cultural bent of most American Women, Black or White. As a result, the competition to attract and hold a man has turned many Black women into who are unprincipled and unashamed. Failure at doomed relationships born out of promiscuity, turned many of these women sexually cynical.

 

They’re not looking to marry. They just want to have that itch regularly scratched by any

means necessary. Some have become bisexual. Others are willing to be satisfied by more than one stud who will use them every now and again for a once a month booty call... or more often once they’ve reached thirty something... the women are the ones doing the booty calling after their hearts have been broken and squeezed into a lump of black coal dust.  

 

And many of them will dress the part in a hot New York Minute. These sisters tend to be highly educated, professionally successful but they weren’t the first draft picks in the marital draft. So they did not get the pick of the litter when they were young, and instead of hooking up with an older, already mated man in their class, which social taboos placed out of their reach... THEY CHOOSE THE THRILLER, and got thrilled to spiritual death.

 

The answer to these problems is Islam. Both Muta’ and Polygyny are valuable social institutions that can help purify some of the nastiness that’s going on in the community. And you immigrants who’re reading this essay, don’t think that the nastiness hasn’t touched your little Ahmad, and Faridah. You sent them to public school, but you never went to an American Public School. You have no idea of the pressure you put them under, even though you see so many of your girls are still single at 35. What do you think they’re doing behind closed doors. Or is it out of sight out of mind?

 

Unfortunately too many folks who are coming into this religion, as well as those who have been in this religion since birth look at Islam with a very distorted lens. Some are ethnocentric searching for or prioritizing a racial, national, or ethnic identity. Some just want to get a good man, or a good woman. and too many, including immigrants, second generation indigenous Muslims, and converts, have no idea of what’s going on right in front of their eyes. 

 

Submission to Islamic principles and values is conditional and in line behind cultural ethnocentric baggage. Faith is on the verge of being terminally weak. Folks still have the same values and principles that they had when they were out there in them streets, partying, fornicating, and masturbating, or in the old country trying not to take sides or and get involved, while maintaining their neocolonial privilege and status. 

 

How many of us really want to see real social change, if we’re the ones who have to do the changing, realizing that the basic unit of society is family, and an Islamic family can morally hold more than one woman, and in some cases... SHOULD? 

 

The basic principal in family is love. And love is wanting for the lover what the lover wants. So, how many of us working class, fairly affluent brothers and sisters will dare to empathize with that deserving sister that’s in our own association who will most likely have to settle for a fool, a sinner (fasiq), or celibacy... reading the reality of the situation in the name of your Lord Who Creates, Worshiping Allah As AlWadud... The Ever Present Lover... and wanting what our Ever Present Lover Wants Us To Do As His Representative On Earth following His Perfect Holy Messengers Obvious Example? 

 

How many of us really want to turn away from the Post-slavery-isms, and Neocolonialisms that still enslave and dominate our thought process, and turn towards the life of Prophet Muhammad (S) for infallible guidance? How many brothers really want to come together to learn how to be good men? Or do yawl just congregate to watch sporting events (“Will Money Mayweather get that fight with Pac-man after all”?... kind of pervasive, exclusive insipid conversations).  Do you sisters really want to come together to learn how to be good women? Or do you just come together to gossip and rag against men’s natural inclination towards polygyny? God Help us all. 

 

Divorce amongst Muslims in the Western World is off the charts. Folks don’t know how to behave at all. Sex is cheap. Love is undefined and rare. Pity is considered foolish, along with loyalty. Males are forcing the issue of polygyny rather than negotiating it, after lying during after courtship about their determination to be monogamous. 

 

Women are denying masculine nature but at the same time titillating it incessantly and formidably, choosing the easiest one’s to “catch” to mate with... the ones who swear up and down that they will comply with their demands while demanding nothing in return from their “Queens.” These easily caught brothers have to navigate in a cultural matrix swarming with needy, pitiful, pleading/demanding, nearly irresistible, deserving, super attractive women, and not all of them are Black, or from your ethnocentric gene pool. Then these same siren sisters wonder why it was so easy for another siren sister to do the same “catching” of the same brother.  

 

Islam is the answer. Hypocrisy and weak spirituality is the problem. We truly need a 

revolution of consciousness, conscience and behavior. And it better happen quickly. If you think this generation is bad. What is the next one going to be like?

 

 

“Consciousness Revival”

By Shaykh Ali Abu-Talib Son Of AbdunNur 

 

 

Love’s not needed to insure basic survival.

You don’t need love and honor just to carry on.

And you wont die without true love’s ardent arrival.

But it’s so good to feel so good from dawn to dawn.

 

 

Love wont save your life if ever you are drowning.

Honor wont buy clothes or pay the grocery boy.

But it takes feeling good inside to banish frowning.  

And love’s a perfect way to feel The Source Of Joy.

 

 

Are love and honor really so important?

Why not focus on what’s practical and real?

Though love and honor have a high endorsement,

Survival tends to generate more zeal.

 

 

Is honor really worth a person dying?

Why not lose your inner face and save the rest?

Is love a thing worth sacrifice and crying?

Is it worth the part of you you must invest?

 

 

There are more important things than just survival,

If you believe you have a soul which has no end.  

By God it’s time we had a consciousness revival,

So men can live this life the way God did intend.

 

 

Love’s not needed to ensure basic survival.

You Don’t need love and honor just to carry on.

You won’t die without true love’s ardent arrival.

But it’s so good to feel so good from dawn to dawn.

 

 

Ya Wadood Bless Muhammad’s Soul

And Rain Down Peace On His Household.